Make your life beautiful

Make your life beautiful

Have you lost that living’ feeling? Or, let me put it another way: When was the last time you were so excited by a passion that people asked you, “What’s up with that grin?” Where were you when you were so riveted by a new experience that you forgot you had a single problem? When did you last feel the tingle of a “wow!” moment?

In the scramble of our career ambitions and obligations, it’s easy to forget that we are dealing with a finite commodity: time. We mortals have a limited engagement. So what do you want to experience while you still can? And how much time do you have to do it? In truth, none of us can be entirely sure.

Buried under mountains of work, life logistics and household chores, too many of us are missing our lives, letting potentially delightful moments pass us by.

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OPEN YOUR FUN-INTAKE VALVE

The latest happiness research clearly indicates that the secret to a rich, satisfying life isn’t found in outward symbols of success, but rather in the experiences that stir us to our core. That’s because pursuing our authentic interests and passions satisfies fundamental psychological needs in ways that external accomplishments can’t.

As long as you depend on performance for validation, you can’t really take in the best, more exhilarating parts of life — because the chip in your head is programmed only for output.

A mind in the performance “work mode” doesn’t fully participate in or enjoy the rewards of play or pleasure, because enjoyment comes from the realm of input — it’s about experience, not outcome.

The good news: You can start reclaiming your life — today. Groundbreaking research being done in positive and social psychology suggests that you should start developing these skills now. Studies show that participation in leisure activities is one of the most significant factors in determining the quality of our lives.

“The higher the frequency of participation in leisure activities,” says social psychologist Seppo Iso-Ahola, PhD, of the University of Maryland, “the higher the life satisfaction.”

In future installments of this series, we’ll be diving deeper into the research that explains why building skills and awareness in this area is so crucial. I’ll also be offering you some suggestions for upping your own fun aptitude.

It may seem strange to think about consciously developing your ability to enjoy life. But the truth is, the vast majority of us have either forgotten or never learned most of these skills. Too many of us literally don’t know how to have fun, so we end up filling our free time with passive entertainments that, ultimately, aren’t very satisfying.

BUILD YOUR ENJOYMENT QUOTIENT

I call the aptitudes and attitudes required to create optimal leisure time “life intelligence.” Much like emotional and social intelligence, life intelligence is a collection of traits that improve your odds of creating and enjoying a successful life.

Raising your life-intelligence quotient requires harnessing skills that directly oppose the performance mind-set. They include:

1. Allowing experiences to unfold

2. Trusting your decisions and not needing the approval of the crowd

3. Seeking out the unfamiliar

4. Practicing playfulness

5. Surrendering control instead of micromanaging

6. Becoming a participant rather than a spectator

As you develop these skills, you’ll begin breaking free of the performance identity trap. You’ll become a more active, joyful participant in your own life. And that can’t happen too soon.

#babyspears

Don’t allow tears in your eyes

“CRY AS HARD AS YOU WANT TO BUT JUST MAKE SURE THAT WHEN YOU STOP CRYING YOU WILL NEVER CRY FOR SAME REASON AGAIN.”

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Sometimes, situations make us to have tears in our eyes but if we allow them to be in our eyes then it shows our defeat from that situation.

So dear, be ready to face new challenges and situations. let them make feel that they had come to wrong person.

Always remember, “DARE IS GIVEN TO ONLY DARING PERSON”
If you think, you are a smart person then let your tears run away from your eyes.
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Best ways to keep tears away from your eyes.

1. Think about the work in which you are most interested.

2. Don’t abuse the person in heart who made u cry.

3. Think that you are most beautiful person in the world.

4. Think that now you are not a child, you have grown up.

5. Think about your past memories which make you laugh when you remember them.

6. Think about the craziest person in your life.

7. Some people cry because of their insult in a party or in a class. Put your ego aside and let your eyes relax for some time.

8. Meditation also helps to forget the situation which brought tears in your eyes.

9. Think that you are a special person whom god wants to test.

10. Offfooo…..now please stop crying :p

#babyspears

25 STEPS TO REINVENT YOURSELF

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We all reach a point in our lives when we need to reinvent ourselves. Whether it’s a personal, professional, or both, life sometimes doesn’t go exactly as planned. We’ve all been there or will go through it at some point in our lives. You’re not alone.

If you feel stuck or have recently lost everything, then now is the perfect time to reinvent yourself so that you can go on to live the life that you always dreamt of. And, here are 25 ways that you can accomplish that.

1. Go back to square 1.

There’s a reason why you need to reinvent yourself. It could be personal, such as getting a divorce, or professional, like having to shutdown your business. That doesn’t matter now. It’s time to start from the beginning and put the past behind you.

2. Create a vision for your future and establish goals.

After identifying what needs to be changed, it’s time to plan out the future that you want for yourself. What do you need to do to make this a reality? Do you need to move? Do you need to go back to school? Figure this out and establish the goals to achieve your vision.

3. Write lists.

Start by writing down a life map and making a graphical representation of your passions and priorities. No matter the size of the goal, spend every morning writing down the reasonable things that you want to accomplish. These words that you have written can motivate you to turn those ideas into action. I do this and it helps.

4. Say ‘no.’

If you don’t want to do something, just say ‘no.’ This will give you the time to do you want to do.

5. Connect with people.

Don’t connect with just anyone. Connect with the right people, at the right time. These should be individuals who inspire you and who you can learn from. With social media, you can connect with these people easily. But, don’t rule out doing some old fashioned networking. Attend conferences and industry events as well.

6. Find time to disconnect.

Alternately, you want to find time to unplug. Emails, texts, and social media notifications will distract you during your reinvention process. It may be hard to believe, but the world is not going to end if you don’t have a Facebook status update for a couple of days.

7. Show gratitude.

At least once a day jot down something that you’re grateful for. When you’re stuck or feeling low, revisit that note. Remember to show your gratitude to your nearest and dearest who support you through thick and thin.

8. Prioritize.

Try to dedicate at least one hour of each day in accomplishing your goals. Remember, knock out those most important tasks first so that you can focus on the smaller tasks that will also help you achieve you goal. And, don’t forget to use calendars. alarms, and apps to help you prioritize your tasks and keep you productive.

9. Be generous.

There are numerous ways that you can be generous. It could be donating to a charity. Volunteering at a soup kitchen. Sharing your expertise by writing informative articles. If you support others, they’ll support you.

10. Find a mentor.

Locate someone who can help guide through this journey. If you can’t find an actual, you can always turn to the words of wisdom that other’s have share in books, articles, or tweets.

11. Get rid of the stuff holding you back.

Do you have a shirt that doesn’t fit, but you hold onto because you like the style? How about that uncomfortable chair in your living room? The books collecting dust? Physical items can hold us back emotionally and physically since they either bring us down or just get in the way. Donate or throw away anything that’s holding you back from going forward.

12. Go shopping.

You definitely shouldn’t go out and max out your credit card. But, a new outfit can make you feel like a completely different person. For example, if you want to be taken more seriously a professional, then go out and invest in a quality suit, new watch, or a fresh haircut.

13. Read.

Don’t just read. Read a lot. It’s one of the best ways to develop your mind, imagination, creativity, and discover new things. Here are a few of my top choices.

14. Take care of your health.

Eat a balanced diet. Exercise. Get 8 hours of sleep. You’ve heard of this before, but you’ll need to take care of your health in order to go through this transitional period. And, don’t forget to take care of your emotional and mental well-being as well. Whether it’s mediating or going to counseling, your entire being needs to to in tip-top shape.

15. Explore new opportunities.

Eat a new restaurant. Visit a foreign country. Learn a new skill. Getting out of your comfort will help you grow as a person, discover new markets, and even lead you to discovering your true calling.

16. Get creative.

As Seth Godin perfectly states, “Art is an original gift, a connection that changes the recipient, a human ability to make a difference. Art isn’t a painting or even a poem; it’s something that any of us can do. If you interact with others, you have the platform to create something new, something that changes everything. I call that art.”

17. Be patient

Reinventing yourself takes time. In fact, it could take up to five years. Use this time to perfect your new skills or achieve your goals.

18. Savor silence.

Whether it’s taking time to meditate or just sitting still for a couple of hours doing nothing, finding some quiet time allows you to clear you read and re-evaluate your goals.

19. Seek inspiration.

What did you used to be passionate about? What inspires you? We sometimes lose track of that during the hustle and bustle of life. If you can’t remember, recall your childhood. What things were excited about? Once you’ve found your inspiration, take action. If you’ve always wanted to paint, then start painting.

20. Celebrate little things.

As I mentioned earlier, reinvention doesn’t occur overnight. It’s a lengthy process. That’s why it’s important to celebrate all of those little accomplishments.

21. Choose freedom.

Don’t listen to the naysayers who are planning your life for you – even if it’s your family. Do what you want to do. It’s your life. They might get a little disappointed at first, but ultimately they’ll have to respect your decision.

22. Listen and ask questions.

You’d be surprised at much you’ll learn if you actually stop and listen to people. Also don’t forget to follow-up with a question or two. Not only will learn something new, you’ll strengthen that relationship.

23. Turn weaknesses into strengths.

We all have weaknesses. Instead of using them to hold you back, turn them into a strength. For example, introverts may not be the life of the party. But, they’re excellent listeners. They could use that traits to their advantage when networking or learning new skills.

24. Panic every once in awhile is normal.

This is a lengthy and trying process. It’s acceptable to freak out every now and then. If you need a day to decompress binge watching Netflix or goofing off with your friends, then do it. Just don’t make it a habit.

25. Revisit your vision.

Make the time either first thing in the morning or before you go to bed to revisit and reconnect with your vision. It’s easy to get off-track because of distractions or the trials that you face, so taking this time keeps you motivated to keep moving forward.

Quit the confusion

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Amidst the responses here and in my inbox from people who knew what they loved and wanted, were some who didn’t.

I don’t believe there’s a single person on Earth who ISN’T passionate, who didn’t have a dream growing up.

But somewhere along the line, you lost sight.

Except, you didn’t really.

Something happened.

Something that scared you into hiding your dreams deep inside, safe from the world, from anyone who might crush them before they’ve had a chance to come true.

  • Maybe you got laughed at or told to grow up
  • Maybe you went after something you wanted and failed, so gave up
  • Maybe you do know what you want but are too afraid to say it out loud
  • Or they seem too small / big / silly / outrageous / normal
  • Maybe you hide them because you want something you think you shouldn’t

A major reason you can get stuck answering this question is thinking that you need to have one answer for this.

Find that one overriding passion you can dedicate your life to, to find your ‘purpose’ in life.

Being a multi passionate person, it’s no wonder you struggle with this!

Because you’re looking for THE passion.

Which mostly doesn’t exist.

Life isn’t always about finding the ‘ultimate’ passion, it could be about living out all of them in varying degrees. Choosing what feels good, what feels resonant with you. Deciding what you want to experience next.

Like I said in that post about passion – the happiest people in the world are those who have a goal/dream and are making progress towards it.

Why is this so important?

Because a life without dreams, a life without passion is half a life. It leads to regrets and sadness. And between, when I say passion I don’t just mean things like social activism or jumping out of planes – it could be something as ‘simple’ as reading or walking!

Your passions are very personal and unique to you, even if others share the same passions cos how you interpret them and bring them into your life is something only you can do.

Oh and your dreams, your desires are 10000% valid JUST because you have them. You do NOT have to defend them to anyone, or feel guilty about wanting what you want, k?

#boost #up #your #goal